Thursday, July 29, 2010

The Good and the Bad



When someone you love passes away -
it's easy to forget the bad and remember only the good.

My Mom took good care of us and she was creative.
My Mom had a beautiful smile and a hilarious laugh.

My Mom was also a yeller, screamer, and a really bad housekeeper.

My Mom had a lot of bulky baggage.
Her daddy abused her - her husband cheated on her
She died three months after the doctor said, "You have cancer."

I remember the bad, and I remember the good.
She's walking - living - experiencing everything
wonderful - eternal - perfect and beautiful now.
No more pain.
No more tears.
No more sickness.
No more depression.
The moment she left me - she joined her Heavenly family.
Her Heavenly Father and her faithful Savior.
This truly is ALL good.

**Seven years ago today I watched my Mom slip from this painful, abusive, sinful temporary home to her perfect, lovely, forever Heavenly Home. I miss her - all of her. All of her good and all of her bad, because that's how God takes us. He takes all of our good and all of our bad. **

This is one of my all time favorite pictures of my Mom and I. I had just had my very first child, and we were both laughing and screaming about all the beautiful black hair he had. This picture always makes me smile, and on a day like this when I feel really sad - it's good for me to look at it.

9 comments:

Lori Crockett said...

Thinking of you today and thankful you have all the good to remember.

Heidi said...

What a nice post, Nikki. I can so relate to this because it's how I feel about my friend Sue. I miss the good things AND the bad things. I can't imagine 7 years. Praying for you today!

thequinnfamily6.blogspot.com said...

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
I'm sitting here bauling like a baby right now. I love you, girl, and I loved your mama. You and Kim both brought her to my mind today, and I'm so glad you did. What a blessing to remember the good and the bad, but to revel in the good she's experiencing now.
Ammy

Kristi said...

What a precious post Nikki! Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. I have not yet experienced the loss of someone close that I dearly loved. (((hugs))) to you my sweet friend. :)

Shelly said...

I've told you before and will again, I loved getting to know your mom. I believe we would've become good friends because she did enjoy life and we shared the two of you. This is also one of the many things I love about you....your honesty! Love ya Nikki and wish I could do something to ease the pain for you.

Lauree said...

You always say things so beautifully! Identifying with your feelings a lot lately. It amazes me how long (after they have left this earth)we still miss our parents. Love to you and prayers for these times.

Lauree said...

You always say things so beautifully! Identifying with your feelings a lot lately. It amazes me how long (after they are gone) we can still miss our parents -- the good and the bad. Love to you and prayers for times like these.

Shannon said...

(((HUGS))) I don't know how I missed this yesterday. In times of sorrow, it is so comforting to know that our loved ones are eternally living. Thank you for sharing your feelings.

Jessica said...

Oh Nikki, I love your expression of words and for sharing your feelings with us. I love you so much and I am so blessed to have you as a part of my family.